Amy was tired, heartbroken and focusing on behaviors kept her from seeing the person behind the behavior. When Gentry was seven, Amy made the decision to stop trying to fix her autism and embrace her daughter for who she is. Presumed competence is a novel idea in the autistic community, but it’s what felt right to Amy. Trusting her instinct as a mom, she assumed that Gentry (with the right supports) was not just capable of living a ‘normal’ life but also wanted to. The thought, “What if this child can teach me?” burned in her heart and as Amy flipped the tables of conventional parenting Gentry, the daughter behind the autism, emerged.